13 Things You Should Never Say To A Girl With Natural Hair

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So, apparently, ‘WORLD AFRO DAY’ is a thing and I AM SUPER HERE FOR IT!  Celebrated on September 15th each year, this special day represents “change, education and celebration” of natural hairstyles among black and mixed-race women. In recognition of this awesome day, I shared a few photos of my natural hair in various lengths and stages on my Instagram. I received so much insta- love from those posts which really made me appreciate my hair and all the black girl magic it embodies! It was also amazing to see all the black hair self love from around the world. Black girls really are killing it!

However, it is not always rainbows and sunshine when it comes to views and opinions related to black natural hair. While I have been lucky to get mostly compliments regarding my hair, I’m no stranger to the shady comments and questions that have been directed at my hair (and all my natural sistas) over the last few years. Some have been ‘oh so subtle’, some were innocently insensitive, some were clearly backhanded compliments and some were just straight up rude!

So in an effort to educate and save someone an embarrassing clapback as a result of insulting the WRONG naturalista, I’ve put together a list of 13 things you should NEVER say to a girl with Natural Hair.

1. WHYYYYYY?????

When I posted my first “big chop” photo to social media, one of the first comments I received was “Whyyyyyyyyyyyy???”. It was from a girl I barely knew but it seems she was more invested in my hair texture and length than I was. Like Girl, CHILL! This is not your hair.

2. I Like Your Hair TODAY. It Looks Nice.

TODAY? So I’m guessing I look like a troll the rest of the time. Thanks.

3. I could never go natural! 

OK. Good thing no one is asking you to. My natural hair is a choice not a judgement towards other people who choose to wear their hair differently. Do You Boo.

4. You Looked Better With Straight Hair.


5. Natural hair is not professional/sexy/glam

If you truly believe this, natural hair isn’t the problem, your mentality is.

6. What are you mixed with?

PSA: The assumption that someone must be mixed if they have long or curly hair, is insulting. Black hair can be found in a range of textures from kinky to curly and they are all gorgeous. It’s 2018 , the natural hair movement is lit and if you aren’t aware by now that black hair CAN grow then I can’t help you. Go in peace.

7. You must have good hair because mine would never look like that. 

I’ve said it before (See Blog Post Here) and I will say it again, a conditioning that we need to leave behind forever is the ideology of good vs bad black hair. Good hair is healthy hair and it has nothing to do with texture. Natural hair in all its textures and forms is beautiful. Let us embrace our hair type and texture whatever it may be and stop forcing our hair to do things that it doesn’t want to do. #FreeTheFro

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8. Does your hair grow? 

Yes. Yes it does. All hair grows. Just at different speeds and rates. The shrinkage of natural hair is real! Don’t be fooled, your girl got inches!

9. Is your hair combed?

I know I did not spend the last couple of hours perfecting this bomb twist out/braid out/wash and go for you to try me today. NOT TODAY SATAN. NOT TODAY.

10. Is this your real hair?

We would never ask women of other races this question, so lets stop asking black women. Just assume that it is and move on.

11. Wow, your hair is so long!

Yes, shrinkage is real. Black hair can grow. We’ve covered this.

12. Why is your hair so big?

The bigger the hair, the closer to God 🙂

13. Can I touch it?

Firstly, NEVER touch my hair without my permission. Secondly, DON’T ask to touch my hair. The answer will always be no. This is not a petting zoo.

If you’re even thinking about saying any of these things to a Naturalista,



Let me know below the most outrageous comments you’ve received about your natural hair or comments you’ve made about someone else’s natural hair!



Things you should never say to a girl with natural hair


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  1. Stacey Liburd
    September 28, 2018 / 6:58 pm

    I LOVED everything about this blog post. My hair is not natural anymore but I get the comments about length, texture and wanting to touch. I get so annoyed by the ‘good hair’, ‘you got indian in your family,’ ‘you must be mixed because your hair is so long’ or the ‘is it a weave’ comments. Ugh ugh ugh. The struggle to not slap someone is real. Lololol.

    • TheBusinessOfChic
      September 30, 2018 / 3:36 pm

      Thanks Stacey! I’m glad you enjoyed it! Yes, the ‘good hair’ comments need to stop. All hair is good hair! LOL The struggle is real! I just have to remind myself that ignorance is bliss lol

  2. Sue Mlewa
    October 1, 2018 / 9:29 am

    My Life every other day, loved the read. It can be quite annoying yes not only does Becky have good hair!!!! Even my what looks like ‘uncombed hair’ is good hair to me. I have been asked about my hairdo at work considering my professionalism , my response has always been is there a problem and the response has always been no ….Thank you!!!!

    • TheBusinessOfChic
      October 1, 2018 / 11:34 pm

      Thanks Sue! Yes all hair is good hair. Focus should definitely be on health not texture. I can never understand how your natural hair in its natural state could ever be considered unprofessional. Loving your hair!